I became a parent in early 2015. Five years ago, I knew I would run into challenges. I knew that I would be challenged by my daughter daily and I was ready. I was ready for anything she had to throw at me. I knew there would be sleepless nights, issues with feeding, tantrums and tumbles. I knew this. What I didn’t know was that I would have to do all this during a Global Pandemic.
The world stopped for a brief moment when I heard the news of the schools closing until April 5.
I am fortunate enough to have a career where I am able to do some of my work from home, if need be. But with the children home for the entire day, it would mean my support system would have to fill in if I needed to meet with a client. My support system is amazing. My parents literally drop anything at a moment’s notice to come and watch their grandchildren.
I chose to start self isolation on March 15th. This was a choice that I didn’t take lightly but for the safety of my family I chose to start right away when things got… weird. You know, when people were starting to stockpile toilet paper. I specifically remember going out that Sunday morning scared that I wasn’t going to be able to get a box of diapers for my youngest daughter. I went to one store, they didn’t have the right size. Then I went to another store, and I got the last two boxes in her size.
That’s when it got real.
I was scared. I was scared that I wasn’t going to be able to get the necessary items for my children. Thankfully I didn’t have to worry about formula or baby foods cause those were getting low too. I thought of my sister, should I pick up some formula for her? It felt terrible.
Fast forward a few days.
This is my new normal. Working with two children, one that ultimately takes care of herself, but desires constant social interaction. And the other that is literally glued to my leg. It makes working from home next to impossible. They’re loud, whether it is laughing, screaming or even walking. STOMP! STOMP! STOMP! Literally as I am writing this my daughter is running around stomping in the living room. The only way for me to get anything done is by giving them a tablet or some sort of electronic device.
So that is what I had to resort to.
I didn’t create a homeschool plan, I didn’t make a routine list for the kids to do daily. I knew I wasn’t going to have time for that. And kudos to the parents that have been able to do it. I commend you. But to those parents out there that are finding this the most challenging thing to balance, I see you. And guess what? I commend you too!
This is hard.
I was sent something the other day from a great friend of mine. It resonated with me. The gist of it was; we as parents chose to either be a working parent, a stay-at-home parent, or a part-time working parent. What we are doing now is next to impossible. So I am here to tell you that you are doing everything right, even when you feel like you ‘ve done everything wrong. It feels wrong because it has never been done before in our lifetime. NEVER.
If you want to make a homeschool plan – you’re doing it right. If your child is using the tablet all day long – you’re doing it right. No matter how you are choosing to handle this situation, every parent needs to be reminded that; you are doing the best that you can. You should feel no guilt at the end of the day, even though I know all of us do. What matters the most is that at the end of the day, when we put our children to bed they know they are safe, they are loved, and that you are their hero. YOU!
So from now on we will always be known as Supermom and Superdad, because we did a kickass job parenting during the Covid19 pandemic. You earned that one. I see you and I salute you.